Why things don’t work out for us…
Hello my friend,
Do you ever feel like your life is just this endless cycle of seeing good things start to happen for you then out of now where…you find a way to screw things all up?
For example—
You might finally be in a healthy relationship. And things may be going well, but then, because of the trauma you may have experienced from past toxic relationships, (consciously or unconsciously) you find yourself doing things that push your partner away (being distant, picking fights/arguments).
Or
You start some new healthy thing for yourself (gym, therapy/coaching, new business) because you’re ready for change and to heal…but then, just as you start to see success, something comes up, (relationship/fam issues, work, etc) & you allow it to get in the way of you continuing….so you stop.
Or
Maybe you found new friends/people you vibe with? Radically different people than who you usually chill with, too. People who would actually benefit you and who you desire to be more like. But then a falling out happens or you start to distance yourself, maybe for fear of being too much or thinking you don’t deserve good things…
Yeah this is what self sabotage looks like.
Of course, there are many more examples of self-sabotage, but these are some of the most common.
So… why would we want to screw something up that could be so good for us? Why do we put ourselves in these type of situations, especially when we know we want better for ourselves?
The focus —
Zen Journal: *NEW* “Why We Self Sabotage”
The Weekly: (1) New “Honey, UnMatrix Yourself,” Podcast episode (2) CH: The Artists Way [Week3] (3) Weekly Card Pull reading + journal prompt questions
Let’s get into it—
If you find that you’re self sabotaging yourself, understand that it doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you or that there’s a big issue at play. We all experience this type of behavior from time to time. It’s normal.
…Take procrastination as an example….we alll do it. And to procrastinate, is when we put something off that’s important to us, for last minute— which is a form of self sabotage.
It’s when you find yourself consistently behaving in these destructive ways, that it could pose as problematic for your wellbeing & it may be worth looking at more carefully then….(continued)..
1. Honey UnMatrix Yo*Self Podcast
Have you listened to the Honey, UnMatrix yourself podcast yet? This is a podcast series I started along with my good friend Sarah Durao, where we talk about all the ways we’ve been healing, growing, & transforming our lives, as well as where we share all the tips/insights we know to be true in helping us to escape the matrix in hopes it can also help you!
The latest episode (episode 004: Give yourself a break: recognizing self sabotage) is on the topic of self sabotage & we talk about so much! From how our childhood experiences shaped us to be the individuals we are today, and how it also plays a huge role in our self sabotaging behaviors, & what we’ve been doing to heal ourselves through it all. Take a listen. Let us know what you think!
2. Clubhouse: The Artists Way (12 week) Inner Creative Healing Experience
This week (week3) we continue on this 12 week journey on clubhouse to uncover what we discovered/learned about from chapter 3 of the book, “The Artists Way.” This week is about learning to lean into the power of our own actions/beliefs, dealing with shame + criticism, & how to work with the synchronicities of life. Join us on this Wednesday (& every Wednesday) at 7:30pm est to be apart of the conversation.
Add the date to your calendar —
** & now a weekly card pull reading for the collective —
3. Collective Healing— Tarot Reading*
Every week, I pull a card for all of us from my Radiant Rider-Waite tarot deck with the intention of love & healing energy.
I shuffle the deck, close my eyes, and I ask the question to the universe— What message do we need to hear this week? What insightful message can we receive that can be used as a guide or support for us while on our paths of healing and living life 🙏🏽
& then when I can feel the message come through, I pull the card…
And this week—
Divine Message For The Week:
Ten of Pentacles
Ten of Pentacles says…
“There is no perfect family, but you have a chance to attain a close facsimile with your home life. After grinding out your goals, you have achieved a healthy balance between home, family, and monetary stability. Spend quality time with your elders and those you respect. They offer golden advice. Spend time with children and make precious memories with them.”
When contemplating the Ten of Pentacles, ask yourself:
-What are some ways I can sustain my current joy and harmony?
-How can I lay the groundwork for a better home life?
-Am I bring loyal to my family?
-Am I adequately providing for the elderly and children in my life?